What Happens If You Have Sex Every Day
Sex is one of those pleasures that at first seem unusually sweet and inspiring, but eventually become boring. Lovers with experience often prefer a quiet joint vacation or just the opportunity to sleep to ardent passions.
Causes of decreased libido may be many. How widespread the problem can be judged by statistics. So, from 15 to 20% of couples in the United States have intimate relationships less than 10 times a year, which is defined as a “sexless marriage.” Such asexuality is fraught with a number of physiological and psychological problems.
But what will happen if you don’t succumb to fatigue and cool relationships, but have sex every day, as if your honeymoon had just ended? There are those who have checked.
In general, the 30 Day Sex Challenge (“30 days of daily sex”) is a rather popular “test” in recent years, which is arranged by couples with experience from the USA and Europe. The Internet is full of reports. For example, one of them is posted on the site buzzfeed.
Three couples who decided to participate in the experiment set themselves the goal of exploring whether daily sex can really improve relationships and well-being for everyone. Spoiler alert: The results are inconsistent.
The participants admitted that the 30-day sex marathon was not easy for them, and none of them ended up wanting to continue it after the experiment was completed. Although everyone noted that the ties within the couple became much deeper and warmer, and life as a whole began to sparkle with new bright colors.
One of the most developed reports posted by American Kirsty Carpenter. The girl not only described her experience, but also analyzed it. Some of the findings were surprising.
Reasons to start
According to her, Kirsty’s experiment was inspired by the book “30-Day Sex Challenge: A Journey to Intimacy” by American pastor Paul Wirth. The pastor wrote this work reflecting on the reasons behind the impressive divorce rate in the United States.
Wirth came to the conclusion that in order to have a stable relationship, you need not only spiritual and emotional intimacy, but also intimate.
The book made a big impression on Kirsty. By that time, the girl had been in a relationship for more than four and a half years, and the passions in the couple had predictably cooled down. Like everyone else, Kirsty and her boyfriend M. were going through problems, because of which sex was rare – no more than once a month. After trying to improve the relationship, the number of intimate contacts stabilized at about once a week.
Impressed by the divorce statistics and not wanting to add to them, Kirsty decided to give herself and her partner a 30-day challenge and see what happens.
Not everything went smoothly. When the start date was discussed with M., Kirsty was admitted to the hospital with appendicitis. The recovery after the operation lasted for three weeks, so at the moment when the doctors finally said: “You can,” Kirsty and her boyfriend threw themselves under the blanket with delight.
This violated the purity of the experiment: it was assumed that the partners start the 30-day sex marathon, being already somewhat tired of each other.
However, Carpenter was not going to abandon the idea. When the false start was forgotten, she began the experiment again. This time without notifying M.
Week one: the illusion of imperfection
How it was
M. noticed that something unusual was happening only on the fourth day. Prior to this, daily sex, apparently, seemed to him in the order of things. Kirsty herself was worried about her appearance: in bed, she always tried to cover the scar from the operation with her hand, believing that he could push her partner away. But no.
Surprisingly, M. did not pay any attention to the physical handicap of his partner. He just didn’t notice him.
What did it lead to
It was then that Kirsty discovered an important fact for herself (by the way, confirmed by scientific research).
Very often, a woman unconsciously stops wanting sex for one reason: she is not sure of her attractiveness. Her own body seems to her “fat”, “disproportionate”, “imperfect”. However, men simply do not notice this “imperfection”: in intimate moments, they, like M., are completely focused on other things.
What does it mean
Intimacy is the very zone in which you can relax and accept yourself as you are. Relaxing, letting go of our complexes, we increase not only the enjoyment of the process, but also increase self-esteem.
Week two: novelty effect
How it was
After seven days of everyday sex, the couple became bored, there was a desire to take a break. But Kirsty was determined to solve the problem. And I decided by adding diversity to intimacy.
What did it lead to
The couple is no longer limited to sex exclusively in the matrimonial bed. Alternative areas of the house were tried: the kitchen table, the sofa in the living room, even the carpeting in the hallway.
What does it mean
The novelty effect stimulates sexual desire. The brain is the largest sexual organ, so it is important to constantly awaken curiosity in it. What if you try like this? And like this? Otherwise? If you give free rein to the research …