Asexuality: is it worth worrying if you don’t want sex
What is asexuality
In asexuality, people have little or no sexual desire.
Asexuality is not included in the list of the International Classification of Diseases, but in some countries it is considered a hypoactive sexual desire disorder. Some sexologists believe that asexuals are people with low libido.
Neither most experts nor asexuals themselves agree with this. Experts considerthat the difference between people with low libido or a sexual desire disorder and asexuals is that the latter are not bothered by this, while the former are often associated with other health problems and require treatment.
The asexual community AVEN (Asexual Visibility and Education Network) is actively fighting to remove asexuality from the lists of deviations.
Canadian scientist Anthony Bogart, who was one of the first to study this topic, notes in the book Understanding Asexuality that asexuality should not be compared with celibacy and abstinence, when the refusal of sex is caused by a person’s personal or religious beliefs.
Arguments scientists in favor of the normality of asexuality are the following facts:
- Asexuals have always felt this way. Feelings are usually attributed to an innate tendency. Researchers have also shown that asexuality is not a response to negative childhood sexual or other experiences or other traumas.
- Asexuality manifests itself early in life. Observations of siblings who grew up together rule out the predisposition or importance of external influences on a person’s asexuality.
- hypothetical possibility. As part of this study, we study who a person would choose in a theoretical situation where he could freely have sex without negative consequences.
How common is this phenomenon?
Figures range from 1.05 to 3.3%. But the controversy is still going on, because the statistics are not enough.
Alfred Kinsey wrote in 1948 that 1.5% of men asexual. And 3.3% of Finnish women report never feeling sexual attraction to anyone. This is also the opinion of 2% of New Zealand high school students and from 0.4 to 1% of adults from Great Britain.
At the moment, the researchers settled on 1.05%. This is about 70 million people.
According to surveys conducted in the 90s, which were analyzed by Anthony Bogart, 70% of asexuals are women. But such data may be due to the fact that it is more difficult for men to talk about the lack of libido.
Asexual genitals work great
2013 study provedthat asexuals have erections and secretion of vaginal lubrication in response to certain stimulation.
They can even reach orgasm, but they do not experience emotional satisfaction.
Asexuality is not a hormonal imbalance
Yes, a particular asexual may have hormonal problems, but this requires treatment, like any other person. That’s just after recovery, attraction will not appear.
To understand whether you are asexual or just time to see an endocrinologist, you should ask yourself the following questions:
- Do you feel constantly tired?
- Are you losing your hair?
- Are you gaining weight?
- You used to be interested in sex, but suddenly stopped?
- Feeling weak?
- Do you feel depressed or are there any other mood changes?
- Do you have memory problems and difficulty concentrating?
- Do you have periods? Do you have a regular cycle?
- Do you have erection problems?
- Are there sleep problems?
Answering yes to these questions indicates that you have a hormonal imbalance. Asexual, on the other hand, simply does not feel interest in sex, this does not cause discomfort.
However, it is better to take a blood test for hormones to get an accurate answer.
What are asexuals
Although there is not enough research on this topic, it can already be said that asexuals have different attitudes towards intimacy. AVEN did their own research to find out.
70% of those surveyed said they had never had sex, 11% had sex in the past but are not currently sexually active, and 7% are sexually active. 17% of the respondents answered that they are completely disgusted with sex, 38% are somewhat disgusted, and 27% are indifferent to sex.
The term “asexuality” itself was coined quite recently. And not researchers, but asexual Michael Dor, who described his feelings as the opposite of sexuality.
The term took root and became official, but was associated with those who are absolutely indifferent to physical proximity. Many asexuals did not like this approach. Therefore, more precise terms or descriptions have emerged for different categories of asexuals.
For example, there are such variations:
- Those who do not accept being touched in any form.
- Those who have absolutely no sexual feelings and experiences.
- Romantics. Experiencing romantic attraction and ready for hugs and kisses.
- Aromatics. Do not experience romantic attraction.
- Demiromantics. They can be romantic, but after developing an emotional connection with a partner.
- Greysexuals. There is a sexual attraction, but it is essential …
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