10 tips for amazing sex after 50

10 tips for amazing sex after 50

10 tips for amazing sex after 50

October 5, 2021Educational programSex
Add lubricants, sincerity and sports.
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Ekaterina Komissarova

Lifehacker medical journalist

10 tips for amazing sex after 50


Sex is an important part of life even for those over 80. So, if you are barely 50, relax: there are decades of pleasure ahead.

However, bedtime joys in adulthood will require a slightly more thoughtful approach than in reckless youth. Here are some tips to make your intimacy even more enjoyable than it was in your 20s.

1. Remember: you are free

In youth, sex is part of the biological reproductive program. From him there are children, which means that you have to constantly think about protection. It often becomes a way to bind a partner to yourself. Or prove that you are cooler than the rest.

By the age of 50, this race for the title of the best “male” or “female” is usually over. Adult lovers most likely already have experience of family life, children and even grandchildren. Partners have already proved everything – both to others and to themselves.

This is the main plus of sex after 50 years: it becomes pure pleasure. Entertainment that does not serve demographic or social purposes.

Keep this in mind when preparing for the next intimate meeting.

2. Exercise regularly

Only at first glance it seems that training has nothing to do with sex. Actually from physical activity depends a lot – including the ability to experience orgasm.

The connection here is the simplest. Regular exercise will give you a toned body, which means you will be less worried about how you look in bed. Confidence, comfort, the ability to relax are important factors for the onset of orgasm.

In addition, sport strengthens muscles, improves mood and, as a result, adjusts to sexual activity.

3. Stop thinking about sex as a mechanic

Each age has its own physiological characteristics, which, unfortunately, cannot be ignored. Yes, in general, and it is not necessary. They should be known by sight – in order to understand what to expect and what can be opposed to them.

Here are the main problems that face older women:

  • Decreased libido. You just don’t want to have sex – 43% of women complain about it.
  • Dryness of the vagina. The lack of vaginal lubrication and associated pain is noted by 39%.
  • Difficulty reaching orgasm. 34% talk about them.

Men have fewer problems. The main one is the difficulty in obtaining a stable erection, about which about one in three complains.

At the age of 50, it makes sense to remember that sex is not only a mechanical reciprocating process. First of all, it is proximity.

Add more touches to your bed play. Give each other a sensual massage. Concentrate on oral sex. Or on mutual gentle petting. This will help you relax and have fun even without penetrative intercourse.

4. Tune in for a long foreplay

With age, it takes more time to get excited. This is due to the fact that declining skin sensitivity to touch.

Therefore, if you want to have sex in the classic form, with penetration, be prepared to devote at least half an hour to foreplay.

5. Stock up on lubricants

About the dryness of the vagina in women, we have already said. Experiment with different types of intimate moisturizers and lubricants to find the one that works best for the two of you. And don’t skimp on the lube when you get down to business.

6. Get ready to change your usual postures

As we get older, our bodies change. Therefore, a position that used to be comfortable at the age of 50 may seem physically unbearable.

Pay attention to the posture of the rider – both normal and reverse. Being on top, the partner can control the angle and depth of penetration and thereby reduce the discomfort that occurs due to dryness or reduced elasticity of the vagina.

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Or try putting a pillow under your partner’s back in the missionary position.

Illustration: Andrey_F / Shutterstock

Or experiment with standing sex. Perhaps your couple will enjoy it more than the traditional lying or doggy style positions.

Illustration: Andrey_F / Shutterstock

7. Add variety

With age, desire decreases, and the fact that often partners have known each other for too long plays a significant role in this. Sex becomes a routine, you want it less and less.

To prevent this from happening, regularly add variety to your intimate life. Perhaps even the simplest options will work. For example, try changing the time of day you have sex. Maybe in the evenings or at night you are too sleepy, and morning bed games, on the contrary, will cheer you both up.

You can freshen up sex in other ways:

  • Find a new location. Get out of the bedroom and try to make love in the kitchen, in a car, rented exclusively for this purpose, a hotel room.
  • Connect sex toys. Go to a sex shop with your partner and choose something stunning.
  • Experiment with the entourage in the bedroom. For example, put a mirror in front of the bed or create a romantic coziness with candles and silk linen.

8. Pay attention to the medications you take







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